I would think that if you could get a loan really quick then you would be paying the lawyer his normal fee, and then you should be able to talk to the lawyer. A paralegal can really only tell you about the mechanics of a file and not give any legal opinions or advice. Unless of course you lawyer is billing you the hourly rate he pays the paralegal, and we all know that does not happen.
There is much more to this case than meets the eye. The father is by no means a saint in the matter.
I am sorry to say as a father who has fought through the court system here in Calgary, that this is not case to hang our hats on, but to hang our heads.